Reason's?

People in general are lazy. There were many people that found work in the Detroit area in the 1960's. Daddy was one of them. He really did mean to have a better life. Meaning well and doing well seems is harder than it seemed. The boys that visited did not find jobs and stay. They were the boys that in later years would work for us pulling the big weeds out of cotton that was too mature to plow. On hot summer days instead of a water break, it was a wildcat whiskey break. My cousins and I thought one day it would be funny to put the whiskey in Mamas water glass and trick her into drinking it. Come to find out nobody, but us thought it was a bit funny. My grandmother thought it was mean. The hired help it belong to thought it was wasting his wildcat and Mama spit it everywhere. Even Daddy was mad and it took alot for him to even take time to notice what we were doing.
There was still something these boys that was not all that great. Everyone has a side that is a tad evil. It is what you do with the good in you that overcomes the bad seeds. I recall a mean grin that my daddy, his brother, their daddy had. When you are around anyone often enough you really see more than the real world knows. Taking things out on family seems to be more normal than not. Talking mean to the one's you love the most. I have heard this all my life, and still wonder, why?

There’s one sad truth in life I’ve found while journeying east and west-the only folks we really wound are those we love the best. We flatter those we scarcely know; we please the fleeting guest, and deal full to many a thoughtless blow to those who love us best.’~~~Wheeler Wilcox

Could this be be how abuse happens? Lazy comes to mind because, these people that hurt the one's they love the most won't make the effort to leave the house and be mean to someone else. Men that choose their daughters and grandchildren to molest are too lazy to get, maybe their wife or a slutty neighbor. No, the neighbor is out of the question because, they could say no and she would tell then everyone would really know that they grinned that mean grin and meant it. The people around us were really convienced that the perfect crime could be committed if you did not tell anyone and made sure the person you did it to didn't tell.